Someone once told me I was elusive. This wasn’t a direct compliment of sorts but rather an observation of my character and it’s really stuck with me. At the time I remember thinking, ‘elusive, I like that.’ I’m sure not everyone would have had the same reaction as I did- but it’s true. I am … More What’s the best compliment you’ve ever received?
I’ve made a promise to myself. I’ve promised to talk less and listen more. You see, communicating isn’t just about talking, it’s about listening too and in fact it’s the listening that is of most significance. Because if we don’t listen- intently listen, then we lose our ability to effectively communicate, we become frustrated, we … More Why listening is more & talking is less
A box. A square. Four equal sides, four equal angles. It’s pretty basic as far as shapes go, right? But this box holds so much power within its four walls. This box causes so much pressure amongst society. This box has the potential to condition a person into believing what is expected of them. This … More Tick box society
I’m frustrated. I’m frustrated by the people who get it all handed to them. Handed to them on a shiny silver platter,. No hard work. No blood, no sweat, no tears. Like it’s their divine right. Half of me envies these people because I’ll be honest, who wouldn’t want life to be that easy? And … More The Silver Platter
Don’t give up on yourself. I mean you. Not you’re fucking kids, your partner, your job, your friends. I mean YOU. Don’t put anything ahead of yourself. Don’t sacrifice anything, be it time, love, energy-whatever, on something or someone that costs you YOU. That costs you losing yourself- your independence, your health, your career. Whatever … More Why I regret not having regrets.
What are you thankful for? For me, I’d have to say it’s resourcefulness. The ability to find a way to adapt and overcome (or at least attempt to) difficulties. This is something that covid has wrestled out of me. I’ve had to deal with what I’ve had to deal with, with what I’ve got- that … More Resourcefulness
You are a jug. The water inside your jug represents your energy, karma, whatever you want to call it- it’s basically that stuff that keeps you going. It’s the stuff that allows you to put one foot in front of the other and carry on with your day. But what if the jug runs dry? … More The Jug
I’m worried. Worried that I’m becoming bitter. This is something I’ve always tried to avoid. Better not bitter right? But this time it’s proving to be more difficult. I’m bitter about covid. I’m pissed off that loved ones have died, that grandparents can’t see their grandkids, that people are losing their jobs-their livelihoods, that kids … More Covid’s making me bitter
“Comparison is the thief of joy” -Theodore Roosevelt I think we can all agree with this statement. Nothing healthy comes from comparing ourselves to others. Doing so will either leave you with a superiority complex or feeling resentful. Which is a waste of your energy because guess what? -There will always be someone better or … More Comparison habit?
January. It’s never been my favourite time of the year. For starters, the weather is cold, dark and grey which equates to not wanting to get out of bed at all. Everywhere you look, adverts and social feeds are telling us to eat healthier, get fitter or make this year ‘your best yet!’ I hate … More January is a write off
This year, despite the world going mad, I’ve learnt to listen to my body better. I’ve discovered a bunch of things about myself but the one thing I’ve found to be most interesting is this… Premenstrual exacerbation. This is the term used to refer to when symptoms of an existing condition such as bipolar disorder, … More Anxiety. Period(t)
Consideration. AJ Milne once said, “A little consideration, a little thought for others, makes all the difference.” So what is Consideration? Consideration is undervalued. It’s being emotionally intelligent and acting on intuition when it comes to other people’s needs. I’ve always been one to be very considerate of others peoples feelings, and this has been … More The C word
Overwhelmed. Overwrought. Agitated. Nervous. Tense. On edge. These are just some of the words that describe how I feel when I’m having a bout of anxiety. It’s like I’m waiting for bad news that is yet to happen. A feeling inside my gut that is on the cusp of an explosion. It’s the butterflies but … More Bad Habits
I hate when people ask me questions. Not because I don’t think they should but because I am so bad at answering them. If someone comes straight out and asks, “ What did you do?” or “how did it go?” I instinctively clam up, muddle my words, and basically sound like I’ve no idea what … More Tongue-tied
Disappointment. It’s something you’re familiar dealing with when you’re a kid. Didn’t get the toy you wanted for Christmas, didn’t get to eat ice cream before dinner, didn’t get picked for the netball team. It was a feeling I got pretty used to when I was younger. Even as a teenager, disappointments were a regular … More Disappointment.
I’ve got commitment issues.There. I said it. I’m not talking about the sort of commitment issues you hear about in songs or read on agony aunt pages. I don’t have relationship commitment issues, in actual fact I’m very committed to my husband and my children. It’s other stuff I find hard committing to. Like my … More A big fat F
Shit happens. So when it does don’t blame yourself, don’t ask why, just remember that sometimes stuff happens for no reason whatsoever. Don’t overthink it. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Don’t think what if, don’t look back and wonder what could or would have happened had you’d chosen a different path in life. Focus … More The art of getting by
Why is it that we spend so much time listening to others but very rarely do we listen to ourselves? We listen to our children, our spouse, our mother, our boss, our friends, the people on the news, the parents at the school gates and so on and so on. Taking a moment and shutting … More Stop, listen, align
Be kind. Two very simple words and yet when I saw them emblazoned across my son’s school jumper last friday it occurred to me that we so easily forget to be just that. My son had chosen the bright yellow sticker to wear at school in support for World Mental Health Day where pupils were … More Be kind
What does success look like to you? Is it owning your own home? Getting married and having babies? Landing a great job that pays well? Now what does failure look like? Not leaving school with good grades? Divorcing your spouse? Not getting accepted for the job you wanted so badly? Didn’t pass the test-failed. Going … More Success vs Failure
It’s inevitable. You will be disappointed at some point in your life. You will fall on hard times, you will experience hurt and loss and you will be let down. This is unavoidable, certainly for the most part. Life isn’t always fair, some will experience more hardships, more obstacles, more setbacks than others. Why? Is … More A Slingshot
I’ve not written in a LONG time. A REALLY LONG time. And I have no excuses, no reasons or explanations as to why, it simply boils down to the fact that I haven’t practised what I preached. Write, right? We’re living in an entirely different world now to back then- back when I unknowingly took … More The Silver Lining
Depression. It’s like the common cold. You know it’s around, it can happen when the colder weather starts so you try and avoid it. Take some extra supplements, avoid germ-ridden places and most importantly, wash your hands more often. Then, out of the blue, you’ve got it. You’ve got the cold you tried so desperately … More The sinkhole.
The proverb ‘ you reap what you sow’ is an old saying that means for every one of our actions there is a consequence. Whatever you put your time, talent and energy into is what you get back. The proverb is also expressed as: as you sow, so shall you reap. The sentiment comes from … More Reap what you so(cial)
My son is seven years old, he’s always been quite petite for his age and was so small when he was born I remember commenting that his nostrils looked like tiny pin pricks. Even as he grew bigger it was so effortless picking him up and putting him on my hip, he fit so snug … More Don’t ever stop picking your children up
In 2018, motivational speaker Les Brown told a crowd of faithful listeners that we can learn valuable life lessons from the Chinese Bamboo tree. The plant, which grows in far East Asia does not break through the ground for the first four years of its life and then, in its fifth year can grow to … More My bamboo tree boys
Self-care is not about being self-centred or selfish, it’s not about being an egotistical human being nor is it about getting a massage or getting your hair done. It’s not treating yourself to a new wardrobe or a day spent at the spa. Self-care is not about lacking in compassion for anyone other than yourself. … More What is self-care?